2.Anger impairs the ability to process information
and think logically.
3.Parentsí anger gives attention to children for
misbehaving.
4.Anger makes parents feel bad.
1. The rest and most obvious effect of parents angry outbursts
is the one every psychologist points out: angry parents model a behavior they do not want their children to adopt. When a child witnesses his parents shout at or strike one another, or when he becomes the target of such displays of anger, he is learning by example. With such teaching, he is likely to adopt these behaviors.
No matter how frequently children are told not to be angry, nothing outweighs showing them how to manage convict without anger.
2. A slightly less obvious outcome of anger is one that seldom, fever, appears in print: anger impairs the ability to process information and to think logically. Nearly every adult understands this principle in the context of an argument with a spouse or partner. Words spoken in the heat of the moment bear little resemblance to those used when addressing a situation calmly.On the other side of shouting match, a person who is the target of an insult often cannot come back with a reasonable response. Under normal circumstances, that same individual could very well counter a criticism with a logical response. In
the heat of the moment, however, he cannot think how to respond. Research has, in fact, demonstrated that anger impairs the ability to think clearly.
Thus, when a parent becomes emotionally engaged, he cannot Communicate effectively or teach his child what he wants her to learn.
When angry, he is more likely to say things that are con
fusing at best and harmful at worst. So the stakes for learning the
discipline children without anger are high. The impact of children’s anger is even greater. Angry children
are even less able than angry adults to process information. They can neither understand nor put to use any of the explanations tha
even the calmest of parents provide at these times. Anger, however, has the opposite effect: the
child learns nothing.
